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The events since My last update have left Me both grateful and overwhelmed. You can read all about whats been going on through My GoFundMe in more detail.


For those interested in being of service at this time, some of My health care and living expenses are outlined below. To apply as service or simply offer assistance, you may email:  


You may also donate directly to My GoFundMe HERE, if you feel inclined to donate please do NOT use any honorifics such as "Mistress" or "Goddess", discretion is important



Rent $1700

Medical Care $915

Medical Debt $850

Nutritional Care $600

Misc Personal Expenses $465




JUNE 2022

It's been a while since my last update (see below for previous post), but today is the Solstice and it feels like a good day to touch base.


Its looking like we might have finally gotten to the bottom of some of my health issues, there were tumors found in my most recent imaging. This has become my main priority and what I am focusing on at this time. I'm currently getting 2nd opinions from specialists to confirm that I will need to move forward with surgery, but it is looking likely that will be the next step. They think the tumors are benign but because they are growing and causing severe nerve dysfunction they need to be removed either way, that being said they won't know for sure they are not cancerous until the operation. Because of where they need to operate there are various complications that can come from this type of surgery but I have high hopes that everything is going to go splendidly.

We also repeated tests from years ago and it looks like I am testing positive for a type of auto-immune disorder, I do not have a confirmed diagnosis at this point but once I am able to see a specialist, I should have more info. I am hoping that addressing and diagnosing the auto-immune disorder and the operation will have a domino affect on the various issues I'm navigating.

This is an invasive surgery with a 3 month recovery, the navigating this for the past 4 years along with the pandemic and the events in my own life have left me completely exhausted on all fronts and I would love to be able to focus on nothing other than my recovery post surgery. 


For those interested in being of service at this time, the details below outline my health care and living expenses. To apply as service or to simply offer assistance, you may email: 




Vitamins & Supplements $350

Lymphatic support massages $450 

Alternative Therapies $625


Rent $1700

Medical Debt Payments $900

Nutritional Care $600



Editing Software Yearly Subscription $360

Height Adjustable Desk $400  SPONSORED! thank you J

Adjustable Ergonomic Desk Chair $200  SPONSORED! thank you J




MAY 2021


I am often asked by aspiring submissives, “how can I be of service?” and in order to be honest with myself and others about what true service means to me at this time, I wrote the following response:


About 3 years ago, I began to develop health issues and body dysfunction. after trying to address these myself it became clear that these were related to some larger issues that needed professional medical attention. Over the years I have been given false diagnosis multiple times and due to this I have yet to get to begin proper treatment. 


At this point, years later, I am exhausted and keeping up with 3-8 medical/healthcare appointments a week has affected my ability to dedicate time and energy to anything besides getting to my appointments and healing. As some of these issues are structural and some are related to my ability to process nutrition, my digestion and reproductive health this has left me in a consistent place of physical discomfort and pain. At times, the structural issues will sometimes impair my mobility, which with an extremely small support system and the pandemic makes getting help when I need it even more difficult. 

This has made things doubly isolating for me. It has affected my mental health and aggravated my hyper-sensitivities to internal and external stimuli and stress, which in turn, aggravates my physical symptoms. These sensitivities are what make me so apt at working with those in a BDSM context so I try to honor them with the space necessary for them to stay active and a part of me.


I managed to push through this past year of the pandemic and created some fëtish video work that I am extremely proud of. To be honest, I think that is what has kept me sane and focused on a positive goal and outcome. I was able to keep myself distracted enough as to not dwell or worry as much about the “what-ifs”. Creating has become part of my life-force, my connection to the unseen and has a way to honor my own trauma-informed healing journey. The cost to continue to push forward with my care has taken priority so I have put off upgrading my editing equipment and hardware as long as possible. At this point I have exhausted my resources and my decade-old equipment is no longer functioning. Additionally, an adjustable desk and chair with proper support is physically necessary to encourage proper healing.


Again, I have to be honest with myself about how much I am able to hold space for others when simple day-to-day healthy functioning has to be top priority and takes up most of the energy I have. I have not been able to make myself available for others in an BDSM context which in turn has affected my livelihood. As I am now often left with the decision of which appointments I can afford each week, financial servitude and service is quite literally a means for me to heal and I am offering options below.


At this time I am looking for those who are interested in helping me get back to optimal wellness over their personal desires and interests. Ideally, this IS your desire and interest. To be clear, the purpose of adopting an expense is an act of service for those who yearn for the privilege to help make my life and existence less stressful during this time. This is also available to those who do not have a BDSM mindset or an interest in servitude but who are inclined to offer assistance and are in a position to do so. 


Additionally, choosing a support tier via PATREON is another way to offer monthly support.


One final note:


My experience dealing with this country’s medical care system alone has been one of the most trying things about this. Navigating this without consistent familial support (both emotionally and financially), takes a toll on the spirit that is hard to describe unless you have experienced it yourself. And I say this as a femme presenting, white, cis-woman. More often than not, gender, identity and background make this an even more dehumanizing experience for some and it means many are dismissed from receiving care altogether. My hope is that once I am diagnosed, treated and able to fully support myself again, I will be able to start a mutual aid fund, support group or resource program for chronically ill SWers and those BIPOC individuals who identify as LGBTQI+. I have yet to work out details on this but this is essential for our human community and I hope to bring this to fruition when I am able. This is something I have been thinking on for some time and I am sharing this solely to keep me accountable and put out a calling card to others who are interested in creating something along those lines. 


Thank you for reading and your support, in whatever form that takes,



Mistress Hx


if you have interest in sponsoring any of the following monthly or as a one-off you may fill out any of the inquiry forms on my FAQ page with “sponsor an expense” in the subject or message.





Physical Therapy $480

Chiropractic Care $400 

Alternative Therapies $380



Rent $1550

Credit Card Debt Payments $500

Nutritional Care $520



Computer & External Hard-Drive $2000

Editing Software Yearly Subscription $360

Height Adjustable Desk $400    SPONSORED! thank you J

Adjustable Ergonomic Desk Chair $200    SPONSORED! thank you J


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